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Naked Tree
Advising Erotic encouragement is my forte and I am dedicated to helping you strip down to reveal your fully embodied, naked, erotic self. I incorporate practices of affirmation, meditation, and reflection, along with challenging exercises that fuse yoga, tantra, and dance together to that you can discover the movements of your erotic rhythm. I advise ways to take you from disintegrated to integrated eroticism with influences from Christianity, Buddhism, Taoism, and Tantra. My work focuses on the integration of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and sexual dimensions of who you are.
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You're human. Humans need other humans to learn how to be more human. It's human nature to want to understand sensuality and sexuality. You can do that in a shame-free environment with my help. No question is too bold and all that you share remains confidential and free of judgment.
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Got Questions?
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Life challenges us in erotic ways. When we put on our erotic thinking caps, we gain confidence in personal self-expression, we allow curiosity to be our guide, and we let go of the previous programs that prevented us from fully exploring eroticism in the most spiritual sense.
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Can You Help Me?
I come from a place where the concept of sex was never discussed in a positive manner. There were hefty religious overtones that suggested sex outside of marriage was forbidden, immoral, and would lead to negative consequences. How do you help a person like me, who has never participated in healthy dialogues about sex? I am filled with shame and confusion whenever sex is brought up. I can’t even tell my husband what I want. I have never allowed myself to fantasize nor consider sex outside of how I have already engaged in it. It’s not painful, it’s just not pleasurable. It feels like a chore, like I am obligated to perform and please my spouse. I am not always in the mood even when I do have sex. I just lay there so he can have the release his body needs. Sex, as I understand it, isn’t for women or about women. It’s about procreation and a man’s release. I don't know if anyone or anything can help me see it differently.
Are you open to the possibility that what you know about sex isn’t all there is to know about sex? Are you also open to the possibility that you can change your mindset and your perspective on sex? If you cannot answer “yes” to both questions, there isn’t much I can assist with. However, if you are open to the possibility that there is much more to learn about sex and female pleasure, then we can begin with an evaluation of your spiritual and sexual integration ability.
Often, the reason sex becomes so confusing for us is because we have too many outside opinions influencing us. This means that we need to peel back the layers of labels and ideological positions that we have been spoon fed and decide a new menu plan for how we want to provide ourselves with nutritious nuggets of delectable erotic intelligence.
One of the best ways to cultivate a bountiful erotic diet, specific for our individual needs, is to listen to our bodies. I utilize many physical meditative therapies, created, and tested out by brilliant clinicians, psychologists, and psychiatrists, to guide you through a course of learning to listen to and feel the body. One of the reasons we don’t find sex pleasurable is because we become disconnected from really feeling our body. The techniques I employ help you develop a listening routine so that you can hear what your body is telling you.
Another way to peel back the layers is by digging deeper into our religious and spiritual beliefs. Many people never pause and reflect on why they believe what they believe or question why they value what they value. Sometimes, we just pick up our beliefs and values from our childhood family dynamic, or we add on to it by way of workplace and societal influences. Sometimes, we defer to beliefs and embrace values because everyone else around us shares in the same beliefs and values.
I use what’s known as the ISIS survey (created by Gina Ogden, Ph.D.) to obtain information about your background spiritual and sexual beliefs. This assists me in cultivating a unique deprogramming plan to help you integrate your spirituality with your sexuality.
My practice is predicated on removing dualistic and opposing constructs from our vocabulary. I distance myself from using words like “right” and “wrong” when it comes to discussing beliefs, principles, and values. I work on separating fact from feeling so that we can have both an objective and subjective view of the issues of conflict. When we remove the right or wrong dichotomy, we can focus more on how things that happened made us feel and evaluate the story that you build and attach to your feelings. This helps you better understand your own unconscious programs and find a way to remove the programs from your mental archives.
I have a great appreciation for the practice of Unconditional positive regard. It was a concept first introduced to the world by Stanley Standal and then popularized by humanist psychologist Carl Rogers. Unconditional positive regard is the basic acceptance of a person regardless of what they have said or done. It’s the isolation of behaviors and actions from the person. Essentially, I see you as a person, a whole person, and not just the things you may have done, said, or thought about. My practice is judgment-free. You are more than just actions and thoughts.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “separate the sin from the sinner”? While I have no use for the word “sin,” I do recognize that the Christianity has significant influence over how we identify ourselves, and the idea of “sin” runs rampant in our mental archives. Within my practice, we eliminate these ideas and focus on the whole person that you are. This practice works best for sessions because it provides a safe space for vulnerable revelations.
I will introduce you to nonviolent communication practices throughout our course of sessions. I utilize the methods as introduced by Oren Jay Sofer, a communication trainer and student of mindful meditation. His techniques have helped me significantly over the years, and I have found that introducing clients to nonviolent communication assists in developing connective communication in all circumstances, not just intimate relationships.
I rely heavily on the work of notable experts, such as Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., Lori Brotto, Ph.D., World renown psychotherapist Esther Perel, Dr. Michael J. Bader, the late Dr. David Schnarch, the late Gina Ogden, Ph.D. These are the “sexperts” whose research and experience have helped me understand the brain-body connection. I will include several of their techniques and practices during our sessions to refamiliarize you with your body, your thoughts, and the integration of the two so that you can embody your beliefs and desires.
Yogic and Tantric practices influence many of the meditation methods we will incorporate throughout the sessions. While many Christians fear the idea of yoga and tantra, I recognize the beneficial qualities of the two practices and find they work in harmony with Christian ideas.
Divine enjoyment is central to my practice. Thanks to the feminine theological scholarship that is available, I invite you to glance through an erotic lens that depicts God as a god of pleasure and desire. This may be overwhelming at first, so we tip-toe into eroticism by reexamining what is or is not true about an all-loving, eros-cultivating God. Once our sessions begin, I will invite you to consider eroticism under a new light.
Please note, however, as with all introductions, we take a delicate approach to all practices and techniques. My mission is not to force you to try new things that you are uncomfortable however, I will challenge you—subtly— so that you can further develop your critical thinking skills. When I introduce you to a new idea or technique, it’s never as a protocol or requirement to your embodiment and healing. It’s more so to invite you into the realm of curiosity by offering you a variety of processes that may be beneficial to your journey.
Deprogramming/deconstructing doesn’t mean we are left with blank operating systems. You will rebuild and reconstruct a new responsible erotic program that comes with as many or as little upgrades and add-on as you want. Every process I present you relies on your consent for installation.
I come from a place where the concept of sex was never discussed in a positive manner. There were hefty religious overtones that suggested sex outside of marriage was forbidden, immoral, and would lead to negative consequences. How do you help a person like me, who has never participated in healthy dialogues about sex? I am filled with shame and confusion whenever sex is brought up. I can’t even tell my husband what I want. I have never allowed myself to fantasize nor consider sex outside of how I have already engaged in it. It’s not painful, it’s just not pleasurable. It feels like a chore, like I am obligated to perform and please my spouse. I am not always in the mood even when I do have sex. I just lay there so he can have the release his body needs. Sex, as I understand it, isn’t for women or about women. It’s about procreation and a man’s release. I don't know if anyone or anything can help me see it differently.
Are you open to the possibility that what you know about sex isn’t all there is to know about sex? Are you also open to the possibility that you can change your mindset and your perspective on sex? If you cannot answer “yes” to both questions, there isn’t much I can assist with. However, if you are open to the possibility that there is much more to learn about sex and female pleasure, then we can begin with an evaluation of your spiritual and sexual integration ability.
Often, the reason sex becomes so confusing for us is because we have too many outside opinions influencing us. This means that we need to peel back the layers of labels and ideological positions that we have been spoon fed and decide a new menu plan for how we want to provide ourselves with nutritious nuggets of delectable erotic intelligence.
One of the best ways to cultivate a bountiful erotic diet, specific for our individual needs, is to listen to our bodies. I utilize many physical meditative therapies, created, and tested out by brilliant clinicians, psychologists, and psychiatrists, to guide you through a course of learning to listen to and feel the body. One of the reasons we don’t find sex pleasurable is because we become disconnected from really feeling our body. The techniques I employ help you develop a listening routine so that you can hear what your body is telling you.
Another way to peel back the layers is by digging deeper into our religious and spiritual beliefs. Many people never pause and reflect on why they believe what they believe or question why they value what they value. Sometimes, we just pick up our beliefs and values from our childhood family dynamic, or we add on to it by way of workplace and societal influences. Sometimes, we defer to beliefs and embrace values because everyone else around us shares in the same beliefs and values.
I use what’s known as the ISIS survey (created by Gina Ogden, Ph.D.) to obtain information about your background spiritual and sexual beliefs. This assists me in cultivating a unique deprogramming plan to help you integrate your spirituality with your sexuality.
My practice is predicated on removing dualistic and opposing constructs from our vocabulary. I distance myself from using words like “right” and “wrong” when it comes to discussing beliefs, principles, and values. I work on separating fact from feeling so that we can have both an objective and subjective view of the issues of conflict. When we remove the right or wrong dichotomy, we can focus more on how things that happened made us feel and evaluate the story that you build and attach to your feelings. This helps you better understand your own unconscious programs and find a way to remove the programs from your mental archives.
I have a great appreciation for the practice of Unconditional positive regard. It was a concept first introduced to the world by Stanley Standal and then popularized by humanist psychologist Carl Rogers. Unconditional positive regard is the basic acceptance of a person regardless of what they have said or done. It’s the isolation of behaviors and actions from the person. Essentially, I see you as a person, a whole person, and not just the things you may have done, said, or thought about. My practice is judgment-free. You are more than just actions and thoughts.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “separate the sin from the sinner”? While I have no use for the word “sin,” I do recognize that the Christianity has significant influence over how we identify ourselves, and the idea of “sin” runs rampant in our mental archives. Within my practice, we eliminate these ideas and focus on the whole person that you are. This practice works best for sessions because it provides a safe space for vulnerable revelations.
I will introduce you to nonviolent communication practices throughout our course of sessions. I utilize the methods as introduced by Oren Jay Sofer, a communication trainer and student of mindful meditation. His techniques have helped me significantly over the years, and I have found that introducing clients to nonviolent communication assists in developing connective communication in all circumstances, not just intimate relationships.
I rely heavily on the work of notable experts, such as Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., Lori Brotto, Ph.D., World renown psychotherapist Esther Perel, Dr. Michael J. Bader, the late Dr. David Schnarch, the late Gina Ogden, Ph.D. These are the “sexperts” whose research and experience have helped me understand the brain-body connection. I will include several of their techniques and practices during our sessions to refamiliarize you with your body, your thoughts, and the integration of the two so that you can embody your beliefs and desires.
Yogic and Tantric practices influence many of the meditation methods we will incorporate throughout the sessions. While many Christians fear the idea of yoga and tantra, I recognize the beneficial qualities of the two practices and find they work in harmony with Christian ideas.
Divine enjoyment is central to my practice. Thanks to the feminine theological scholarship that is available, I invite you to glance through an erotic lens that depicts God as a god of pleasure and desire. This may be overwhelming at first, so we tip-toe into eroticism by reexamining what is or is not true about an all-loving, eros-cultivating God. Once our sessions begin, I will invite you to consider eroticism under a new light.
Please note, however, as with all introductions, we take a delicate approach to all practices and techniques. My mission is not to force you to try new things that you are uncomfortable however, I will challenge you—subtly— so that you can further develop your critical thinking skills. When I introduce you to a new idea or technique, it’s never as a protocol or requirement to your embodiment and healing. It’s more so to invite you into the realm of curiosity by offering you a variety of processes that may be beneficial to your journey.
Deprogramming/deconstructing doesn’t mean we are left with blank operating systems. You will rebuild and reconstruct a new responsible erotic program that comes with as many or as little upgrades and add-on as you want. Every process I present you relies on your consent for installation.